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17 03 2013

7. What’s more important in a relationship: physical attraction or emotional connection?

An emotional connection is far more important. Physical attraction is important, and can certainly add heat to a sexual relationship. However, we say “soulmates” because great, lasting relationships are based on something within. There are many physically beautiful people, no matter how you define physical beauty. But if physical attraction were the most important aspect of a relationship, when two people who are attracted to each other have first dates they would almost always be followed by second, third, and fourth dates… And we all know that dating isn’t that simple. The ties that bind us most closely are more than skin deep.

“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.” — Richard Bach, Jonathan Livingston Seagull