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26 01 2015

23. Have you ever been bullied? Have you ever bullied anyone else?

Yes, I have been bullied.  I occurred from elementary and into high school.  It was a terrible thing, but eventually grew past it.  I fully support efforts to stop bullying, particularly in schools where kids are forced to be every day and with no real recourse that doesn’t lead to bigger problems.

I certainly haven’t always been super supportive of all the people around me, but I can say confidently that I never intended to make others feel the way I felt.


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4 01 2015

22. Do you like the type of music your parents listen to? Do your parents like the type of music you listen to?

Growing up my parents primarily listened to our hometown radio station, which played county music. I suppose now it would be considered classic country, but back then it was just country. It would play all morning while mom made a full breakfast, and we all got ready for work or school. They had a few records, and they were an assortment of classic rock from the 50’s and 60’s, a few gospel, and a few country albums.

Because of this, I think they might enjoy other kinds of music other than county, but as the only radio station in the county was country, we listened to it.

I enjoy rock, easy listening, and country, as well as musicals, jazz, blues, folk, and classical music. The majority of my listening time is probably spent with a mix of easy listening, rock, and limited amount of crossover country. A list of ten “off the top of my head” artists is found below.

  • The Avett Brothers
  • The Gibson Brothers
  • Quiet Company
  • Matt Fishel
  • Mika
  • Rufus Wainwright
  • Cazwell
  • Dan Zanes
  • Alicia Keys
  • Macklemore

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17 11 2014

21. Do you enjoy being with only one or two friends, or with a large group of people?

I love the energy of celebrating with 50,000 or 60,000 fellow fans in a football stadium, or a few thousand at baseball or basketball game. By nature I’m quite solitary. Still, I enjoy the occasional company of others. I seem to connect best with the other person if there are only two of us, but can be quite comfortable with groups for varied sizes.

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8 04 2014

20. Have you ever spent a night in the hospital?

I’ve spent most of the night several times visiting and caring for someone I love.

When I was 20 (or 21?) I spent nine nights in the hospital following a terrible car accident. The accident wasn’t my fault, but was the result of a car passing me on a two-lane road, in a curve, and forcing an ongoing truck to swerve to the shoulder to avoid the passing car.

The driver of the truck lost control in the gravel on the shoulder of the road, and plowed right into me. The truck hit me so hard that it knocked my car out the road and into a dirt bank. As a result, my car was damaged on the driver’s side, the front, and the rear, and the windshield collapsed in so far that it cut my head. Also, because of my hands on the wheel trying to steer, the glass hit my hands. Mom said the tops of both me hands looked like “rats had been gnawing on them”. Fortunately I was wearing my seatbelt and survived, but it was still close. It was four days before the team of physicians working with me told my parents that it looked like I might live, but at that point they couldn’t say whether I would be a vegetable. Once I started to pull out of the “deathwatch” stage, I began to recover steadily. After I went home I spent a few months recovering, healing inside and out, and regaining some weight and strength.

As an adult, I’ve spent one overnight in the hospital as a precaution following the discovery of blood clots that had gone to my lungs, and was released the next day.

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7 04 2014

19. Where was your favorite place to go when you were a little kid?

I have always liked to go places. The places I that came to mind when considering this question were places I went with my family. Sometimes on a nice weekend day we would load up, usually in the pickup truck so that everyone had a good view, and the four of us would go for a long drive with no particular destination. We were just out enjoying the drive and following whichever direction, road, or rural highway seemed least familiar. Once in a while I still enjoy just heading out with no particular destination, preferably on the backroads, to explore. We miss so much when we only see the world from our own neighborhoods or the expressways.

If I had to pick a specific place, it could have been to a school event – usually basketball games, or a vacation destination. There are so many great places on most travels through small town America, but in answer to this questions I’ll just pick one: Maggie Valley, North Carolina. When we went to Maggie, we were really going to be all over the Smokey Mountain area, but some of my best childhood vacation memories involve lodging in Maggie.

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11 08 2013

18. Is there anyone close to you that you know you can’t trust? You don’t have to give names.

I trust my husband completely. But there isn’t really anyone else that I completely trust. I believe that there are a number of people who wish me well, and who bare no ill-will toward me. However, I really only consider my husband to be close to me. That’s what makes this question difficult to answer. In my experience people pass through our lives at various speeds, and no matter how close we may have seemed to become, they easily move on without looking back. There are a couple of people I went to elementary and/or high school with that I would consider the next most trustworthy bunch. And there are a number of people in whom I place significant trust.

“Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.”
― William Shakespeare, All’s Well That Ends Well

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14 06 2013

17. Do you drink? Smoke? Do drugs? Why, or why not?

I often have a cocktail or two a week. And I might have more if on vacation and walking home from the place where I’m drinking. I prefer gin martinis and Manhattans, but will sometimes have a cosmopolitan or Long Island Iced Tea. If making a drink for myself, it’s usually a gin and tonic. I occasionally have whiskey by the shot or in soda. My favorite whiskey is Crown Royal. When out at a bar I’m usually the driver and then prefer a Corona Light (no lime), or maybe two of them if we’re going to be there for several hours. I don’t drink to get buzzed or drunk, but have learned to enjoy drinks socially. It is very unusual for me to drink alone.

I don’t smoke. It’s not good for you, it costs a lot of money, and it smells bad. My father smoked until my senior year of high school. During his last few smoking years he smoked 2+ packs a day. Growing up in a smoked-filled house, and enduring countless trips in smoke-filled cars can’t have been good for us kids. All those chemicals can’t have been good for my mother’s health, either. I grew up in a family that struggled to make ends meet and lived paycheck to paycheck. It was not unusual for there to be serious discussions regarding medical care before seeking it, such as having glasses for poor eyesight or visiting the doctor due to illness or injury. As a very young child I broke my nose but wasn’t taken to the doctor. I have breathing problems as a result, even after one adult surgery, and a second surgery was recommended earlier this year. As a teenager I had a broken wrist bone, but was only taken to the doctor after several days of complaining about pain. However, there was never any question that dad was buying his cigarettes. I think it was my father’s way of making sure we knew how little we mattered to him. As you can probably guess, smoking has never appealed to me.

I have never had a desire to take illegal drugs, and fortunately have never had a drink spiked with them. I also have never smoked Mary Jane. It has never appealed to me. I have enough to worry about without illegal drugs.

“Get up and dance, get up and smile, get up and drink to the days that are gone in the shortest while.” –Simon Fowler

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12 05 2013

16. Can money buy happiness?

While having money, or more money, may not directly make a person happy, it certainly does help. The vast majority of stress in the life of the average American is related to money. More money bring with it better working conditions, as well as the possibility of not having to work. More money provides better healthcare, it helps free people from the worry of not being able to provide adequate housing, clothing, and food for themselves and their loved ones. More money makes possible safer neighborhoods, safer and more luxurious cars. More money brings with it greater access to influential business leaders, community leaders, and politicians. More money allows better legal representation. More money can mean better schools and libraries. More money means less stress when contemplating retirement. It makes travel and leisure much more possible. So, yes, money can definitely improve your life in significant, and potentially transformative, ways. It doesn’t necessarily make your happy, but it can certainly remove a number of reasons for being unhappy.

“Money isn’t everything…but it ranks right up there with oxygen.”
― Rita Davenport

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3 05 2013

15. If you could pick anywhere to live the rest of your life, where would it be?

This is a difficult question. I love quaint Oxford, Mississippi, but also love Manhattan, Toronto, and Provincetown. Westchester County, New York, is nice, too, if you can afford it. With a big lotto win, probably a Westchester home would win out. It’s close to Manhattan, but quieter and more relaxed. Provincetown is great, and i would love to live there, but I’m not sure I would want to spend the rest of my life there. Toronto is amazing, and would also get serious consideration. Unfortunately, despite my love for Oxford, Mississippi wouldn’t be a great place to live due to it’s anti-gay laws. I don’t want to live in a place where my spouse is considered a legal stranger to me. On a budget, Toronto would be more fun than New York. It’s plenty large enough, and after several visits I still look forward to returning. I have friends there, and feel quite at home.

My heart will always be in Dixie, but my home will likely always be in New York.

“Home wasn’t a set house, or a single town on a map. It was wherever the people who loved you were, whenever you were together. Not a place, but a moment, and then another, building on each other like bricks to create a solid shelter that you take with you for your entire life, wherever you may go.” ― Sarah Dessen, What Happened to Goodbye

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20 04 2013

14. Have you ever read the “Missed Connections” on Craigslist? Have you ever posted one, or wanted to?

I’ve read it a couple of times, and I posted once several years ago (with no response). I think the chances of a connection being made by through missed connections are pretty slim. The thought of posting recently crossed my mind, but I didn’t follow through. There is a guy who works at the pharmacy I use who is really cute, who always has a smile, and who seems really sweet. The “sweet” part could be the result of my projecting who I think he is – or at least who I want him to be. The last time I was there we both laughed as we talked, and his eyes seemed all aglow. I’m drawn to him, but suppose I posted the missed connection and he responded. Then what? I could take him out to dinner or a show, I guess, but I’m not sure where else this could lead. I already have a husband with whom I’m madly in love, so I don’t have much to offer the pharmacy guy beyond friendship. I think it’s probably more fun for me in the long run to have my little infatuation with him run it’s course without him knowing about it. Oh, and yes, my husband does know about pharmacy guy. 🙂